Blogging Runner

Posted: 22 Jul 2012 05:45 PM PDT

“Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course, we wouldn’t fall in love… or be who we are.”

Well, I figured you might be getting sick of my running and exercise talk, so I decided to switch it up a bit. It’s no secret that I am a happy, single woman in her (gulp) late twenties who would love to eventually find the (almost) perfect man, and now I’m sharing some of my stories.

When I was young, I was too picky and I took too much for granted. As I got older I stayed too long with good men who just were not right for me. Then I dated some impossible men who had severe commitment issues that I tried to change. However, as I started to gain weight, I slowly lost my confidence and I basically gave up dating (not that there were many options).

When I was heavier, I hated myself for being so lazy and I hated the way I looked, but I did nothing to change it. I blamed everything on my extra pounds and I never realized I had more to offer someone.

Over time, as I lost weight, I regained some of my confidence. But along the way, I thankfully realized that there’s much more to me then the way I look. I’m not at my ideal weight and even if I gain back 15 pounds, I’m happy that I now live to enjoy my life, seek new challenges and appreciate my free time more than ever before.

It’s been a long time since I’ve truly put myself out there and I feel like the rules have changed!

My challenges are that I live in suburban town with little nightlife, I’m not really a bar girl and most of the people I know are married!

Regardless, I’m trying and that’s progress. I am trying to get involved (despite the fact that my new running group is all women) and to be more social.

So far it isn’t going so well. There have been a few awkward first dates and failed returned phone calls. There have been some chance encounters and butterflies, but nothing worth mentioning.

So this is when I say that I HONESTLY believe that everything in life happens for a reason and anything else is a wonderful old story or memory.

If I hadn’t taken that business class, if I hadn’t gone to that party, if I had reconnected with that old high school friend, if we both didn’t like the Red Sox (in a Yankee town), if I didn’t play ring toss at a bar late at night, if I never went to the beach and if I never worked in Boston … I would have missed out on some amazing men, opportunities, romances and one (and a half) love(s).

I guess I’m just waiting to make my next random move, and for my next surprising encounter in order for something potentially magical to happen. It may be now or it may be in another 5 years, but I’m finally ready (inside and out)!

Finally, I’ll leave all of you beautiful, charming, successful single gals with another inspiring quote. Enjoy!

“Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.”

Today: 2.5 miles.
Weekly: 2.5 miles.
Yearly: 384.22 miles.

QUOTES from: Sex and the City